Everyday we make decisions, some holding more weight than others. For instance, do I wear the red shirt or the blue shirt? Obviously, this decision does not require much personal empowerment to make. But how about: Should I move across the country and quit my job, or stay here? Clearly, you want to be more secure in yourself prior to making this one.
So where does strong vs. weak come into play? We’re humans; our feelings vacillate from day to day based on our moods, our physical needs, our financial needs, our relationships, and so on. Then on top of our ever-wavering states, we experience decision fatigue. This means that at certain times of day we’re simply better equipped to make decisions than at others. We can either be strong in mind or weak.
I personally feel better about making decisions in the morning, when my brain has not been taxed by the day’s to-do list. I also find that right after I’ve received information from outside sources, I have to sit with it for a long time before I can decide what to do. When we feel depressed or desperate, we’re not going to be thinking from our highest point of view. Likewise, when we are overly excited and emotional, our logical brains won’t have time to weigh in. Strong vs. weak for me is all about gathering conviction; ensuring that all of me is on board, that I’ve taken plenty of time to analyze the data, assess the opinions of others, and then be alone long enough with myself to really understand how I feel.
Usually our fear-based decisions end up being short-term mistakes. Then we have to clean up our mess or wait it out until we can restart down the correct path. This is why it’s best to just wait initially, and not rush into things. Even if you receive a diagnosis and the doctor puts pressure on you to move fast, you still have to give yourself enough time to be in the right frame of mind to actually process all the information. From personal experience, I know that this does not happen over night. So just have patience and trust that everything will work out the way it is suppose to. I have a mantra I say to myself that is this: There is power in waiting. God’s working on my behalf.
Lastly, when you’ve had time to fully “digest” all the facts and all your feelings, you’ll have a clearer point of view and a more confident attitude about your final choice. Not to mention, you’ll have a much greater chance of enjoying the outcome of your decision in the long run.