This title was inspired after telling a car salesman no when I really wanted to say yes. Another example came after saying no to a physician’s plan of treatment, because I knew I needed to take more time and do more research. Yet, in both of these situations I very much wanted to say yes. It was hard to delay my gratification and results. But experience has taught me not to rush into things; not to “get lost in the moment” and mesmorized by shiny objects. Or let fear direct my thinking.
How easy it is to succumb to pressure from others, however, when we feel our own knowledge is limited. This is why we must practice saying no. Saying no gives us our power back. It allows us the time and space we need to process; it allows for more clarity to surface because our real feelings stay consistent over time. That’s how we recognize what our truths are.
When we say no, we are trusting the Universe to provide. We are saying in effect, “I already have all I need, and if I did need this, then it will come back around.” Additionally, if we are not 100% sure, saying no gives us time to do our research, perfect our vision, and manifest an even better outcome. However, it takes practice saying no because most of the time we want to say yes! We want to help, we want to be pleasing, and we want to get the deal done with. But don’t let impatience or fear of disappointing others distract you from your mission. Find opportunities and allow yourself to say no. You’ll find that people start to respect you more, and you’ll start respecting yourself more too.