I can only speak from experience. Everything I tell you, I tell myself. You know the biggest problem with being too hard on yourself? You drive other people away. No one can relate to you – nor would they want to. It can be exhausting to hang around a perfectionist. It can feel self-defeating to…
The Wounded Healers of Our Time
It has been my experience that all the wounded healers make excellent horse trainers (the gentle ones, that is). For these poor souls have endured such pain in their own lives, that they can enter into the arena fearless; for the worst has already been done to them. It is their rare confidence we all…
The Real Meaning of Surrender
To me, surrender is about resisting nothing and accepting everything. No matter how bad the thoughts or memories are, you allow them to surface. You do not push them away, but rather you act as the observer until they pass away on their own. It is key to remember that you are not your thoughts.…
Don’t Entice Through Fear
Have you ever opened up an email from someone you like to follow and then been turned off the minute he/she starts to tell you that you need something? First of all, how does anyone know what you need? Second, it’s wrong to assume and wrong to force your ideas onto anyone. I love following…
The Secret to Life
I believe the secret to life is to learn how to be alone. And not just to be alone, but to thrive alone. Then, whenever you are with someone else, you can be the best version of yourself. Once you have mastered the art of living alone, you can enter into any relationship with no…
What if it All Goes Right?
For all you worry warts out there, this is a phrase I say to myself when I need a little reminder that life’s too short to spend it thinking about what could go wrong! I made up this quote, “What more could be so right?” in response to everyone around me saying, “What more could…
Believe
Written some time in 2007 at age 23: I’ve always preferred looking at life with the “glass is half full” attitude. I love to encourage and motivate people, but one thing that is even more important to me is emphasizing the significance of BELIEVING. For if we ask but do not have faith that our…
Being Insensitive
You can’t change the way you feel even if you think you are being too “insensitive.” The truth is, the way you feel is the way you feel and ALL of what you do or do not feel is completely valid. It hurts when you wish you felt more compassion and empathy for someone who…
Be The Observer
One of the best ways to detach from your thinking mind is to pretend that you are just an observer. Imagine yourself taking your brain out of your body and placing it into a stranger’s head. The stranger sits at a movie theater watching the stage. He has no ideas or thoughts about your life,…
Putting the Car in Neutral
Trusting God is like putting your car in neutral. You stop driving and you surrender the wheel to God. Wherever the car rolls is where you go. Sometimes you need someone else; some other force to get you to where you need to go. But in order for this to happen, you first have to…