Even though you unconsciously do it, there are times in life when you have to teach others the hard lessons – just like others sometimes have to teach you the hard lessons. During these times there is always something we need to learn. Perhaps it is to keep better boundaries, or to not give your heart away so soon, or maybe it’s to be more responsible with you money. It could even be that you need to learn how to receive better in your life.
Whatever the reason, allow the experience to happen. Embrace it fully – good feelings and bad. Know that the only way out is through and this means you can’t resit the pain or it will only surface again down the road. Here’s where it’s important to be vulnerable, honest, grieve, and say what you really feel. The best thing you can do is get out whatever you’ve been holding onto.
Whether you find yourself being the victim or being told you are victimizing another, just look within to your deeply held values. Ask your Highest Self if you are acting inappropriately or if there is something you need to learn. Then you can take the correct action you are guided to take. There is no need for guilt or shame, just acceptance of what is and trust that you will be guided through this to the best outcome. Most importantly, don’t blame yourself for “being the bad guy.” Sometimes there are things we don’t understand that are playing out at a higher level for the benefit of all.